tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937880305824976500.post8796712410032182841..comments2022-10-09T03:37:33.648-04:00Comments on Dr. Dad, PhD: Mother fucker! Am I on the chopping block?Dr. Dad, PhDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00244148018964711614noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937880305824976500.post-89755278365551137842013-10-02T20:08:49.196-04:002013-10-02T20:08:49.196-04:00It's all good - things always happen for a rea...It's all good - things always happen for a reason. I'm just too anal and prideful to accept the fact that I might not instantly understand the deeper significance of what happens around me. I'll still give the situation a bit more time to play out, but I put everything in the context of "should I stay or should I go." Probably not the healthiest approach, but i yearn for stability and find myself constantly thinking 5 moves ahead.... <br /><br />I will try and be more zen-like about everything, but it's somewhat against my nature...Dr. Dad, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00244148018964711614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937880305824976500.post-15637743719564087362013-10-02T10:25:04.333-04:002013-10-02T10:25:04.333-04:00WOW! Man, I'm sorry that you are having to go ...WOW! Man, I'm sorry that you are having to go through all of this! I hope that things get straightened out soon. Take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937880305824976500.post-50600827831966480022013-09-28T14:48:02.358-04:002013-09-28T14:48:02.358-04:00The biggest problem right now is that I don't ...The biggest problem right now is that I don't know who (in leadership) I can trust or talk to. A few grad students have caught on to my plight (without me necessarily telling them), but those conversations serve more as a much needed pressure release valve more than providing protection/guidance. I can't go to HR or most upper management because 1) they don't have the best track record at keeping things anonymous/uncontentious and 2) everything here immediately needs to be documented, making every situation far more serious than might be needed. <br /><br />Push comes to shove I will discuss things with a few key people, but more in terms of "what is my future here," "what do I need to do to be a more valuable to the organization," and "what is required of me to gain my independence?" I can't be sure of my boss's intentions, and raising flags now will only serve to make me a marked man.<br /><br />Bottom line: I've been through worse and need to remind myself that I can persevere. Most importantly, I need keep the environment and my attitude from draining my energy/will to succeed. Easier said than done, but I'll do my best. Family support will be the key for me here, I think.<br /><br />While I will try to scale back some of my support for the students, I refuse to make them suffer needlessly. I'm most concerned about our Master's student - the short time frame doesn't lend itself to too many hiccups along the way....<br /><br />Thank you for your kindness and wisdom - both are exactly what I need right now (well that and two papers, an R21, and some serious start-up resources)....Dr. Dad, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00244148018964711614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937880305824976500.post-7626123710359068722013-09-27T12:24:21.047-04:002013-09-27T12:24:21.047-04:00i'm so sorry to hear this. It's a lot of &...i'm so sorry to hear this. It's a lot of "hostile environment" going on there. SO draining and not productive for anyone. Do you have anyone you have talked to or can talk to at your work place? (informal HR or other mentor or someone who has your back?) that's important, regardless on what happens in the future since these things might end up "word against word". <br /><br />If you want to email and bounce some ideas/suggestions/vent feel free. I've seen some similar things happen earlier in my career and have some suggestions on how to insulate you a little bit better from fallout.<br /><br />My advice would be document, document and document. Like you seem to have done already, with checking the policy and then go with that etc. <br /><br />As for the helping the others in the lab.... I know myself and would probably do the same thing. However, I am not sure that this is in your best interest since you are in effect helping your PI since that way the lab looks well run. It's complicated though.<br />challhttp://challl-dreams.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com